Did you see that episode of the Simpsons, where Bart joins a football team, and Lisa makes this big dramatic entrance to the field, all suited-up, ready to fight the feminist fight against gender discrimination in sport? And there's already some girls on the team? And she's kinda like, "Oh, right then, okay, carry on."
That happened to me this week.
I was invited to attend the welcoming supper for new faculty members, because I'm on the faculty association board. The invitation didn't specify, so I wrote to ask if I could bring my husband and daughter, you know, to fight the feminist fight against the erasure of real-live-families from academic life? Well. We got there, and not only is there a nametag for my daughter (in cheery Comic Sans, no less), but a whole tablefull of kid name tags. And a giant, well-stocked craft table at the front of the hall, where a mass of small children are excitedly making glittery foam stars and flowers, collaboratively filling out colouring pages. My daughter made friends! And a pink door-hanger with unicorns on it!
I made a point of moving through the room, introducing myself to faculty families--faculty moms and faculty dads and their 'civilian' spouses and their toddlers, their newborns, their twins, their tweens. The spouses got nametags, too. There is nothing more heartwarming for a crusty old tenured faculty mom than to see a new professor mom, burping a name-tagged four-month old, while her husband fetches strained carrots out of the diaper bag. We talked schools and daycares, and while I was fully prepared to to staunchly defend our rights to reproduce and research in the same lifetime, no one really needed convincing.
I actually found it very moving.
As the crusty old tenured mom, I have to interrupt myself to bring you back to the olden days, when I started here. I went to the same party. There were no children, let alone a child's play area. And I would have noticed that, because I was BABY CRAZY but feeling like I had to maybe keep a lid on it.
Things change, even at universities. They even sometimes change for the better, for the more inclusive, and the more humane.
Best. New Faculty. Orientation. Dinner. Ever.*
* full disclosure: I won a cheese tray in the draw. I NEVER win stuff in draws. This possibly colours my interpretation of events ;-)